Since time immemorial, 'Love' has been one of the most thought about and talked about
emotions. The reason for the same is simple, we talk the most about those things which we are not able to understand. And, all of us fall short when it comes to understanding love. It is also one
of the most complicated of all emotions known to man. Since, we are not able to explain the intricacies of love to ourselves, we stay confused throughout life regarding this aspect of human
emotion. Valentines day is yet another occasion when we all love to talk
about 'Love', or, when some of us will say 'I Love You'.
Being able to express ones feelings to the people who matter the most in our lives is a task which is not easy for everyone. Some of us are bound to be more expressive than others. Then there are
others among us who find it especially difficult to explain their love to the person who needs to know about it before anyone else.
When to Do It
The first thing is to be sure of yourself, do you really love the person to whom you are about to say the three magic words. 'I Love You' is not a phrase to be taken lightly. So, say it when you
know that you really mean it from the bottom of your heart.
Right Time and Place
Now that you know that what you are feeling for someone is genuine, the next important step is to decide on the time and place. This Valentines day should remain the most special for the one you
love, if your 'to be Valentine' wants to be loved and pampered, or you yourself want the expression to become memorable for life, choose the correct time and place for the proposal. This helps in
setting the mood for the occasion and you never know that that might tilt the answer in your favour, if nothing else.
How To Say It
Now that you know that you are well prepared in terms of the time and the venue. The next step is how to go about saying it. The best way to do it is to be as forthright as possible. Say it with
flowers, gifts or chocolates or through the written word to add charm to the occasion. Personalised and thoughtfully done Valentine gifts are the best choice when it comes to making this day last
in your memories forever.
It is natural to feel skeptical and more so if you do not know how the other person will react. But, either ways, one should always be strong enough to take any answer in their stride. After all,
it always is better to not keep yourself and the other person guessing. Then whatever maybe the result, there will never be any regrets in life.
It is often said 'Better late than never'. So, do it this Valentines day, tell someone that you love them before it is too late or before the whole meaning of it is lost somewhere with time.
Flowers are a beautiful symbol of expression. They are a true representative of
all emotions related to human nature. Thus, flowers are an indispensable gifting idea when it comes any occasion which celebrates our heartfelt emotions. And especially so when the occasion is
the one celebrating one of the most alluring feelings among all of human emotions, love. Therefore, it is but natural that flowers have become an integral part of the occasion of Valentine's Day since a long time.
Though there are many varieties of flowers like daisies, irises, daffodils that can be gifted on Valentine's Day. But, the rose wins hand down when it comes to popularity and relevance as far as
the occasion goes. The word rose has come from the Latin word rosa meaning red, and the flower has been a symbol of love since ancient times. Rose was supposedly created by Chloris, the Greek
goddess of flowers. Rose is a blossom with a sensuous fragrance and delicately yet beautifully crafted petals. The colour of a rose is a silent communication of the feelings that are being
conveyed from the receiver to the giver. A bouquet of flowers is a small cluster or arrangement of flowers. People even gift bouquets of different colour blossoms to mark the emotions that
dominate an occasion.
White - True love, purity of the mind and reverence
Pink - Grace, gentle feelings of love
Dark Pink - Gratitude
Light Pink - Admiration, sympathy
Yellow - Friendship, celebration and joy
Yellow with red tips - Friendship, falling in love
Lilac - Love at first sight and enchantment
Red - Love and passion
Coral - Desire
Peach - Desire and excitement or appreciation
Blue - Mystery
Green - Calm
Orange - Enthusiasm and desire
Purple - Protection
Black Roses - "It's Over"
The most popular flower on Valentine's day is the red rose. Reasons for the same are two-fold, one is that the colour red represents love, and all lovers gift each other a red rose irrespective
of the occasion. And, Valentine's Day is the day of love, so the natural choice has to be a red rose. The second reason is in relation to the mythological significance of red rose, it is the
favorite flower of Venus - the Roman Goddess of Love and Beauty and this also makes it the perfect choice to be given to someone you love. This is one flower that has also been popularised as
being the symbol of love and romance by poets, writers and philosophers since time immemorial.
Valentines day or St. Valentines day falls on February 14 every year. This is one of the most
awaited days among all occasions that celebrate relationships. Since, this involves one of the most beautiful and intriguing of all human emotions, love. It is because of this fact alone that
Valentine's day has mysterious yet alluring undertone to it. There are many things that build up on this fascination that we have with such aspects of love and Valentines day.
Books on Romance
Since forever people have used the written word to describe the feelings of love and romance. This has been put across to the readers through prose and poetry presented through books. Though, these
days books are losing its connect with todays' people. But, there are those people who are still in love with reading books. In fact this is one medium which has undergone a lot of change in the
recent past also with the introduction of e-books. Books are a beautiful expression of love and thus can be alternately used as the perfect Valentine day gifts for someone who is in love with love
and with books.
The concept of movies and films was introduced only about a century back but has caught up fast with the audience at large. This is a medium that involves the most important senses in us humans,
sight and sound. Movies have the power to transport us to fantasy from reality. The most popular genre among movies is of romance. And the reason for the same is very obvious. After all, people
love seeing others on film living the life of love and positivity.
The basis of all creativity is the range of human emotions. Music too has not lost out on this inspiration. Anyone associated with music, whether a composer or a musician or a singer is a lover at
heart. He/She who is an admirer or lover of music associates it with feelings and emotions too. Music is poetry in action, and has always been inspired by the various facets of love as well as the
other emotions of human nature. Romantic music makes for a great accompaniment as a Valentines day gift and is responsible for creating the atmosphere in a evening planned around the theme of
Couples in Love
Love is in togetherness, it is in companionship and friendship. Couples are symbolic of love since lovers have been universally understood to be in pairs. Thus, everything that is associated with
love recognises these aspects in their totality. From Valentines day gifts to all the symbols of love have been created keeping this fact in mind. The love message itself says, 'I Love You' which
clearly implies the presence of more than one in a love association.
This was a detailed overview of all those facets of love that associate love with
romance. After all, Valentine's day has been primarily known for the romance that is brought to life on this day.
Valentine's Day is an occasion to openly express love to your beloved and what better way to do
so than by means of flowers! Every year lovers use flowers as the medium to convey their feelings for their Valentine. Of all the flowers used on a Valentine's Day most commonly used Valentine's
Day flower is the red Rose as this flower is traditionally recognized as the symbol of love and passion. A single perfect red rose clubbed with Baby's Breath flower is considered to a
“signature rose” by the florists and is the most sought after
flower of Valentine's Day.
Other flowers that are popular on the occasion of Valentine's Day include tulips, daffodils and irises. Many people also prefer a mixed flower bouquet on Valentine's Day, as it looks colourful and
attractive. Most lovers try and avoid silk or artificial flowers as nothing matches the beauty and aroma of fresh flowers. Besides it is said that fresh flowers represent the genuine feelings of
love towards the recipient. No, wonder florists across the world do a roaring business on Valentine's Day.
Origin of Rose as a Valentine's Day Flower
According to popular legends red rose is considered to be a favorite flower of Venus - the Roman mythological Goddess of Love and Beauty. Hence the red Rose came to be associated with love and
romance. Historians believe that the tradition of giving red rose on Valentine's Day became popular in the 1700s when Charles II of Sweden introduced the Persian custom of "the language of flowers"
to Europe. Books giving details about meanings of particular flowers were published which demonstrated to people how entire conversations could be carried out using just the flowers. Poets and
romantics at heart also eulogized red rose as a symbol of love, passion and beauty that helped to create strong association of rose with love and Valentine's Day
Meaning of Different Colors of Roses
Rose of different colors symbolizes different emotions and feelings. One therefore needs to be careful while presenting a rose to loved one: Red Roses - Love and passion White Roses - True love, purity of the mind and reverence Yellow Roses - Friendship, celebration and joy Pink Roses - Friendship or Sweetheart, admiration Peach Roses - Desire and excitement or appreciation Lilac Roses - Love at first sight and enchantment Coral Roses - Desire Orange Roses - Enthusiasm and desire Black Roses - Farewell or "It's Over" Bouquet of Red and Yellow Roses: Happiness and celebrations Bouquet of Red and White Roses: Bonding and harmony Bouquet of Yellow and Orange Roses: Passion
Arrangement of Valentine's Day Bouquet
Traditionally a bouquet of dozen red roses is considered to be ideal and most romantic Valentine's Day gift. However, you may try and be a little more creative. A bouquet can be made to look
charmingly different by adding balloons, candy or small stuffed animals to it. Besides ribbons, hearts, and toys can also be used to spice up the arrangement. With the help of the florists one can
make a mixed flower bouquet by selecting flowers that convey the emotions of your heart. As Valentine's Day comes at the end of the winter season one can find a large number of spring flowers in
their full bloom
Tips on Presenting Valentines Day Flower
Select the flower with love and use your own judgement to do so. Your bouquet may not have to be large to show your love, as it is the feelings that you carry with the bouquet that matters most. A
great idea to touch your beloved's heart would be to attach a note along with the bouquet stating how much you love her or him. Do something unique in your own sweet way to make Valentine's Day
more special for your beloved.
Women should not think that it is their sole right to receive flowers as surveys reveal that most men have the secret desire to be pampered with flowers by their sweethearts. It has been noticed
that men like crisp colors like red, orange and yellow. Blooming plant is also a great Valentine's Day Gift Idea for men.
When in love girls keenly wait for St Valentine's Day Festival. For them Valentine's
Day brings opportunity to express heartfelt feelings for their boyfriends and to pamper them with gifts of love. Most girls spend hours in brainstorming sessions and in discussions with friends
but still find it extremely tough to decide on that special Valentine's Day Gift for boyfriend. In case you too are finding yourself in such a dilemma here is attempt to provide you some awesome
and unique Valentine's Day Gift ideas for boyfriends:
Pampering with Love
A wonderful Valentine's Day gift idea would be to pamper your beloved with something that demonstrates your love for him. For instance you may learn to prepare his favorite dishes or gift a
muffler knitted by you or how about writing a romantic poem or song for
him. These are inexpensive yet most invaluable Valentine's Day gift you can ever gift to your boyfriend.
Ticket for a Music Concert
If your beau is music buff you may get tickets for a concert of his favorite musician. Alternatively you may get tickets for sports event in case he is interested in sports and a magazine
subscription if he loves reading. This will reflect your thoughtfulness towards your guy and he will surely love you for that.
Miscellaneous Gift Ideas
Most guys love to possess a handsome collection of CDs, DVDs, cologne, body
sprays, goggles, bracelets and wristwatches. You may give anything of sorts depending on your boyfriend's preferences. Another idea would be gift desk accessories like pens, penholders, business
organizers and timepieces. This way you would be close to your love even when he is away on work! Complement gifts with chocolate and bouquet of fresh flowers to add a romantic touch.
Take opportunity of Valentine's Day festival and let your wife know how much
you love her! Just say, ‘I love you' in her ear to watch her glow in your love or do simple things that delight her to make her feel special and loved. Another way to celebrate the occasion is to
indulge her with sweet and special Valentine's Day gifts of love. Most hubbies find it difficult to select a perfect Valentine's Day gift for wife but with little thought and lots of love this
could become an enjoyable and memorable opportunity. Given here are some Valentines Day Gift ideas for wives to invigorate your thought process.
For Wives who love Jewelry
Well, all wives love them no doubt!! Though diamonds and gold are always
the first choice of women you may also choose to gift less-expensive artificial jewelry, as they are a rage amongst women these days. You may select from a wide range of semi-precious and beaded
jewelry from jewelry shops or online shopping sites and delight your special
For Working Wives
In case your wife is a busy executive you may gift her a smart handbag, organizers or a latest mobile phone. You may also treat her with a booking in spa or a head to toe treatment in a beauty
parlor. She would love being pampered by hubby on Valentine's Day.
Clothes and Accessories
You may pamper your wife by gifting her a dress that compliments her personality. You may buy suits, saree, trousers or evening wear depending on her taste. Accessories like scarves and sarongs
besides designer intimate wear is another interesting Valentine's Day Gift idea for wives.
Romantic Candle Light Dinner
If your wife loves the idea of picture perfect romance treat her with a romantic candle light dinner at her favorite restaurant. Visit the restaurant in advance and request manager to make
special decorations for your table with roses. You may also make live music request to enchant your darling wife on Valentine's Day.
Valentine's Day Festival bring with it the opportunity to express heartfelt
feelings to your sweetheart. The occasion is even more special for those who have not yet declared their love. The best way to tell your girlfriend about your feelings is to say it with a bunch
of roses and a thoughtful Valentine's Day card. To overwhelm your beloved with love you may also indulge her with cute Valentine's Day Gifts. Here are some Valentine's Day Gift Ideas for
girlfriends to trigger your imagination and creativity:
Stuffed Toys Girls love to receive cute and huggable stuffed toys from their beau. Gift her a
stuffed animal or any of her favorite cartoon character and she will always cherish it as a gift from you.
Chocolates and Cakes
You may indulge your girlfriend with delectable and yummy chocolates and cakes on Valentine's Day. You may enjoy this gift together and have a good time.
Cute and romantic showpieces like an image of Cupid, lovebirds, dancing couple etc make a memorable Valentine's Day Gift. Coffee mugs or posters with beautiful words or pictures can also be
gifted to girlfriends.
Jewelry and Clothes
Jewelry like bracelets, necklace sets, rings are an all time favorite gift of ladies. If you are sure about preferences and size of your girlfriend you may also gift her trendy and fashionable
If you are a creative person you may prepare a handmade Valentines Day gift for
your girlfriend. For instance, if you are good at painting you may prepare a portrait of her or if you are good in music you can compose a special song for her. The gift you prepare may not be
perfect but it will surely be the most touching and precious gift for her.
In case you are planning to celebrate love with Valentine's Day Party
here are some tips just for you!! These little ideas on Valentine's Day Party will help you organize a memorable and enjoyable party and win appreciation from guests. Stress should be given to
early planning to avoid last moment stress.
Preparation for Valentines Day Party
Plan for the Valentine's Day Party weeks in advance.
Select the theme for the party and accordingly plan your decorations.
Send invitations two weeks in advance and inform guests about dress code if there is any.
Announce a prize for the most innovatively dressed person to inspire your guests.
Plan the menu and book the caterer in time to avoid last minute hassles.
Delegate the work of decoration, gifts etc to friends or family members so that work progresses smoothly and nobody feels burdened.
Set the Mood with Good Music
Soft romantic music would be ideal for a romantic party. However, if it's a noisy happy party lively jazz with love themes or nostalgic rock and roll will be more appropriate.
Valentine's Day Decoration Plan an interesting and
lively decoration for your party according to the theme you have decided. Symbolic colours of St Valentines Day are red, pink and white so you may play with these colurs. Other symbols of
Valentine's Day like Cupid, hearts, rose and laces may also be used for decorations.
Food and Table Ideas
Select the menu according to the tastes and preferences of the invitees. If it's children's party include their favorite food. Menu may be a little sober for the party planned for grown-ups.
For fun you may have all of the food items pink or any other color for that matter based on the theme for the party. You may have cocktails, sundaes, sandwiches and other food items in color of
your theme. But make sure there is no compromise on the taste!! Decoration of table should also be done according to the theme of do. Table covered with white sheet and decorated with cardboard
heart looks awesome.
Plan some Party Games
Kids look forward to games and elders enjoy them too. Ideally at least two games should be planned for a Valentine's Day Party. Select some innovative games keeping in mind the age of the
participants. You may plan more games if the invitees are of mixed age group to ensure that everyone has a blast. Don't forget to keep token prizes for the winners. A good way to please all
guests would be to keep favors for everyone.
Some Valentine's Day Activity
Activities add thrill to the Valentine's Day Party and make it more enjoyable. Here are some funfilled and easy to implement Valentine's Day activity idea:
Guess how much Love is in the Jar
Put lots of candy hearts in a glass jar and as the guests make themselves comfortable in the party ask them to guess number of candies in the jar. Person who makes the closest guest gets to
take the candies home. This activity will help you to connect with each guest.
This activity can be planned for small kids. All you need to do is hide a number of paper hearts around easy to find places. Ask the children to gather as many hearts as they can. They will
Steal my Heart
Pin a heart sticker on each guest as they arrive. The rule of the game is that if the guest is caught crossing their legs they lose their clothespin to the one who caught them. Person with most
clothespins wins the game.
Red heart pierced by the Cupid's arrow is a traditional symbol of Valentine's Day. Heart
symbolizes love and giving someone a heart means to hand over one's existence to someone. A heart pierced by a Cupid's arrow means that when someone presents a heart, the person takes the risk of
being rejected and feeling hurt. Piercing arrow therefore symbolizes death and vulnerability of love. Some people also believe that the heart and arrow symbolizes the uniting of male and a
Today, one finds great use of red heart symbol especially heart shaped red balloons in Valentine's Day decoration. Stuffed red heart decorated with a lace is a popular Valentine's Day Gift.
Origin of Valentine's Day Hearts
Around 12th Century people were not aware the function of heart was to circulate blood inside the human body. What they knew was that heart begins to beat faster when a person is upset or
excited. They, therefore, derived that heart was the seat of emotions and feelings. Poets too eulogized the role of heart in feelings of love and romance and over the years this make believe
connection between heart and love became deep seated in the minds of people. Today, even though it has been scientifically proved that emotions come from the brain heart remains a powerful symbol
of love and Valentine's Day.
Wearing one's Heart on one's Sleeve
The popular expression of 'Wearing one's heart on one's sleeve' comes from the tradition prevalent in America and Britain around 1800s. At that time, young men used to wear slips of paper pinned
on their sleeves and had their girlfriend's name written on it.
Laces and ribbons are a delicate Valentine's Day symbol. Their association with love and romance can be traced to
ancient times. At that time when kings and knights went to battles their ladylove presented laces to them.
There is yet another reason attributed to popularity of Laces as Valentine's Day symbol. Hundreds of years ago
ladies used to carry lace handkerchief. If at times a lady accidentally dropped her hanky, courtesy demanded that the man standing near the lady pick up the handkerchief for her. Sometimes, ladies
used to drop their handkerchiefs deliberately in front of the man they liked and wanted to meet. Lace therefore became a tool in the hands of ladies to encourage romance. Gradually, people began to
associate lace with romance and started using paper lace to decorate chocolate boxes and Valentine cards. Even in present times laces are used in Valentine's Day Decoration and Cards.
Advice for a good marriage can in some cases seem a little obvious, but in a lot of cases it can seem like just the advice you need. When you are involved in a long term relationship, sometimes
it's hard to see the wood for the trees, and it takes only the most basic advice for us to see what is wrong. Check this article out for more information.
Advice for a good marriage 1
The best piece of advice is to be honest with yourself about when it is and isn't working. If you kid yourself that everything is fine when it isn't, things are hardly likely to get better-in
fact you will usually notice things getting steadily worse. The sooner you spot and admit to problems, the sooner you can move past them. Half the work is done as soon as you admit something is
wrong, so don't be afraid..
Advice for a good marriage 2
Learn to communicate effectively. Too often relationships degenerate into accusations and fighting as the default method of interaction. Can you honestly hope for things to last if that's how you
both behave? If you have something under your skin, sit down and talk it out. Talking about things sensibly rarely makes things worse-unlike accusations and arguing!
Advice for a good marriage 3
Understand that you can't fix the problems in your marriage solely fixing your partner's behaviour. A marriage is exactly that-the joining of two people-so it's not healthy to make one person do
all the changing and adapting. This will not lead to a healthy relationship. It's much better to sit and talk it out and then work out how you can both make things better for each other. It's
also a lot easier this way, as each of you will usually only need to make small adjustments to keep the other happy.
Advice for a good marriage 4
Learn the difference between being in love and falling in love. When you fall in love, the person can do no wrong and people are able to behave in ways that their partner may not necessarily
agree with in a normal state of mind. That's why it can take work to stay in love-the love is still there, but you can't expect to act however you please and for it to still be there. Love is
like a fire, it sometimes needs to be tended to make sure it still burns.
Advice for a good marriage 5
Understand the principles of marriage karma-you get what you give, so if you go the extra yard for your partner and prove yourself to be kind, caring and considerate, the chances are they will
act a lot more like that toward you too. Think about when you see couples that are really in love-it's rarely just one of them doing the kind things is it?
Hopefully this advice for a good marriage will help you out. Check out the links below for some great information on fixing your marriage for good.
Reforming relationships with ex partners is a tricky process, so before you go any further take a moment to think to yourself about what went wrong the first time around, and why this time is
going to be any different. It may well be that you are focusing on the positives in the relationship because of your needs, and that is causing you to forget the negatives. Or it may well be that
you thought everything was great, but it wasn’t working so well for your ex-wife or ex-girlfriend. Either way you need to look at the relationship and work out what went wrong, and work out if it
is something that you can fix. If you don’t do this then you are setting off down the same path to a break up once again.
Now there’s two possible situations that ended your relationship last time. Either you called it off or she did. The third option “the mutual decision” is a virtual non existent situation. One
partner will always initiate the ‘break up talk’. It’s practically unheard of that two people at exactly the same instant switch from being happy with each other to wanting to end a relationship
- unless they just found out they are twins separated at birth, and if that’s the case you probably shouldn’t be putting too much thought into getting back together! How you get back together is
going to depend a lot on how you broke up.
If you were the one to call it off, then you are going to have to be very careful about the way you re-approach her. She was most likely very hurt after your relationship ended, so asking her to
put herself in that position again is going to be difficult. A girl is going to translate your actions as “I thought I could do better, turns out I can’t, so I guess you’ll do”. That’s not going
to work a lot of the time.
If you were the one that called it off, then getting things going again is going to involve some pride swallowing on your part. You need to admit that you were wrong to call it off in the first
place. A good way of doing this is to say something along the lines of “You know, I really miss the (insert something she likes here) we used to do.” Depending on her response you have your
opening for a new ‘first’ date.
On the other hand, if she was the one that called things off you need to approach things differently. There was something about you, or about the situation, that didn’t make her happy. All you
need to do is figure out what that was and change it, and you are half way to winning her back. From there you need her to become aware of the changed situation, re-establish contact, show her
how things will be different and then convince her that getting back together is the best thing for both of you.
It is not easy to have a difficult marriage. And it becomes more difficult that you do not want to show the world that your marriage is not a healthy one. You try to avoid sharing this situation
to your friends and family. All you want is people see your marriage as a great one. No fight, no conflict, everything is fine.
You, and hopefully your partner, still want this marriage to last. You just don’t know how to deal with it. Handling all the conflicts between the two of you is not something you master. You need
somebody to help you both. To solve this catastrophe in your family.
You must get help. And let’s stop thinking about ‘divorce’. Not even saying it.
Get the secrets to help you solve your problem. Check them out below:
1. Get a Marriage Counseling
Getting a marriage counselor is often the best way to help the crisis in your marriage. It is even better if you get one as a part of your marriage maintenance plan. Marriages have a better
opportunity to success when the couple goes to marriage counseling. A counselor can really make a difference in the worst situation. He or she helps you to understand your partner better because
he or she has no biased opinion.
So, why not find one now? Go to local churches as many of them will offer this service for free. Or, find it online or in the local yellow pages.
A good marriage counselor can make a difference between getting separated, divorced or staying together, no matter how big your marriage problem is. Some of the things that you can work through
with the help of a counselor are:
• Work on marriage maintenance from the start
• Help you admit defeat every now and then (though you’re right, it’s unwise to end a marriage over a disagreement)
• Make passion a top priority in your marriage
3. What You Can Expect from a Marriage Counselor
A marriage counselor will take you to a few sessions of therapy to work out problems in your relationship. This therapy often begins as the couple analyzes the good and bad aspects of the
relationship, then help you learn to change how you and your partner interact with each other to solve the problems. Why? Because both of you have
contributions to whatever that comes in the relationship.
4. How Much Will a Marriage Counselor Cost?
The average cost for marriage and family counseling is around $100 per session. Not to mention that you need to pay for the initial fee, which is about $40. However, if you are unable to pay for
it, you can also find non-profit organizations for a free service. You can also ask your company if it offers free counseling for its employees and families. Go find a counselor. No matter how
much it costs, as long as your marriage is saved, it’s worth it.
5. Counseling for the Entire Family
It is normal to have conflicts within the family. However, when normal conflicts turn into so much worse, it’s big chance that family members begin to hurt each other emotionally. Thus seeking
counseling for everyone is a good idea. It will try to help them learn how to reduce the problems. Families can learn how to effectively deal
with problems by getting a family counselor.
In the middle of a session the other day I had a powerful realization. I was asked to think of a relationship I had with something in the last week that in my mind was the ideal relationship, and
to think of what it was about that relationship that made it ideal.
A number of people in the group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objects such as their television remote, recliner chair, diamond
jewellery or favorite pair of shoes. To each of these people, these things felt comfortable, and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was rewarding and easy to
To make your marriage more rewarding, cast a look over at here:
When my turn came to identify my ideal relationship, I thought of my dog. My dog has very simple needs, and it is the ultimate ego-boost for me when I get home at night and I am greeted in such
an enthusiastic fashion. I don’t know of any others that greet me so enthusiastically night after night. No matter how long I have been away from the house or no matter how my day has been. I
call this unconditional love.
So what is unconditional love?
Unconditional love is the type of love that comes without conditions. It is the type of love that you have for your partner when the romantic, hollywood-style love is gone. Once the romantic love
is gone you make the transition to "real" love. Real love is love you have for your partner despite the knowledge that they are not perfect. You know your partner has faults. You know your
partner is not perfect. You know your partner makes mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. You still love them. This is unconditional love.
The same thing applies to you however in looking at your partner’s faults. You acknowledge that you are the same. You have faults. You are not perfect. You know you make mistakes sometimes, but
that’s okay. That’s called self-acceptance, and you expect unconditional love to overcome the faults and imperfections that people have.
So what do you get from this then? Should we all go out and get dogs to teach us something about unconditional love? Maybe there is a lesson to be learnt here. We all clutter our lives with
trials and tribulations, and there is the temptation to let our issues rule our lives.
But if you are serious about saving your marriage you need to put the clutter to one side and let your unconditional love come through. It is okay
to have faults and make mistakes. And love will conquer them all.
Have a think about unconditional love and how you can apply this realization to your relationship.
How to Attract Women: How to Impress Women by James, Relationship Expert
Renee Grant-Williams, a celebrity vocal coach, says, "The people we deal with in life come to know us by the three ways in which we present ourselves: (a) how we look; (b) what we say; and (c)
how we say it." Obviously, this applies just as much to women as it does to men. If not more.
So if you want to impress women, you're gonna have to carefully think about how you present yourself. Let's look at each category.
A. How We Look
Whether you like it or not, dress is crucial. It says a lot about you: whether you care about how you look, or you don't. But you don't have to dress like a Hollywood celebrity to look good.
1. Get a female friend or sister to help you pick your clothes.
If you don't know what to wear, get someone who does know! Ask a female friend or acquaintance to go shopping with you. She's sure to be flattered, and if you reward her with a gift certificate
or DVD, she'll be all the more motivated to help you out.
2. Check out the latest styles.
Go to the bar or club and see what others are wearing. Observe what the guys who do well with women wear. Look in magazines and catalogues and see what it's in style.
3. Wear what conforms to your identity.
Hey, if you're the hardworking, businessman type, wear formal clothes that accent your career. If you're the snowboarder/skater type, wear grungy clothes that accent your loose, laid-back
persona. And if you're really into music, don't be afraid to express yourself with the types of clothes that rock stars and musicians like to wear! You can't force a style upon yourself; clothes
are a form of marketing, so market yourself like you would a product, in the way that best shows what you're all about.
The same goes for your hair: If you want to convey a clean-cut, crisp image, then you might want to shave and cut your hair short. But if you're trying to convey a rebel image, a goatee, long
hair, and tattoos are probably in order.
And speaking of tattoos, don't forget that they are an ACCESSORY that further helps you to market yourself. Tats, jewelry, and even hats are great ways to mold your image to the man you want to
present to women. If you're a snowboarder, for example, a wool hat says "Cool". Or if you're an aspiring rapper or musician, a doo rag has a place in your wardrobe. Consider the accessories that
best conform to you as a person.
* Your dreams.
Let a girl know that you have a purpose and direction in your life, that you're not a wandering bum!
* Funny stories.
Humor is a great aphrodisiac. Think about some funny things that have happened in your life. But make sure your delivery is good--more below.
The Dalai Lama said, “Sometimes one creates a dynamic impression by saying something, and sometimes one creates as significant an impression by remaining silent.” Don't be afraid to let a girl
speak for a while. Be silent, but be interested. Actively listen to what she says. It'll go a long way towards upping the attraction meter!
* Teasing/Playing around.
This is a great technique, especially if you don't know exactly what to talk about. Throw in an occasional joke or funny moment. I have a friend who has a great technique for handling silence. He
laughs to himself, prompting the girl to ask, "What?" He'd say in a sly way that would invite curiosity, "Nah, you don't want to know. I'm in deep thought." She'd respond, "Tell me! Tell me!" So
he'd do the whole Meow Mix song ("Meow meow meow meow..."). It's just one of many great ways to lighten the moment, and show you're a relaxed, none-too-serious person.
* Last but not least, sex.
One relationship guru brilliantly says, “TALKING about sex is the first step towards having it.” Ask her if she’s a bad girl, or what’s the craziest thing she’s ever done in her life—with a bit
of innuendo added into your voice. This isn't the kind of stuff you want to talk about right away, but when things are going good, it's great to show your "inner bad boy". She’ll know what you
mean, and get excited thinking about it.
Likewise, here are some topics that you SHOULD NOT talk about:
- Offensive humor. Chris Rock's racial humor may be entertaining, but it's not a good topic for a first date!
- Politics. There's nothing to be gained by arguing over issues and parties.
- Past girlfriends. An absolute no-no. All you do is play a game that makes one of you jealous or suspicious of the other. Stay away from this topic, but if she DOES ask you about past
girlfriends, talk respectfully about them so you don't come off as an insecure whiner.
- Inside jokes between you and your friends. They're called inside jokes for a reason--keep them that way!
- Anything that could be interpreted as geeky or dorky, such as science-fiction. Unless you know for a fact that she's into science fiction and comic books, keep it to yourself for now.
The last thing you want to come across as is a geek!
- Too much about yourself, your possessions, how great you are, etc. Bragging only makes you look insecure. Even if you own a yacht, don't talk about it like it makes you any more
special than her.
C. How We Say It
Of course, none of these topics, particularly funny stories, are gonna work if you don't know to deliver them. Delivery in speech is crucial. People who have good delivery can make an otherwise
dull story an exciting one. I highly suggest you read "Voice Power" by the aforementioned Renee grant Williams. Here are some tips she recommends:
1. Use consonants.
That is, accent your speech. If you're talking about a great concert you went to, no one will believe it's that great if you say in a monotone voice, "That was a great concert." That puts people
to sleep. Instead, say, "Man, that was a grrrreat concert!" The Tony the Tiger voice. If she says something, don't say as if you're bored, "Really." Say, "Rrrreally?", then, with emphasis, "WOW."
2. Don't use unnecessary words and details.
If you're talking about a time when you and your friends went to Cancun, don't bother with the unnecessary details like the food they served on the plane, the wait for the taxi, or the sheets
they used in the hotel. Get to the point!
As Williams says, Silence does speak a thousand words. There's nothing better than the "power pause", especially when trying to captivate your listeners with a story of bravery. You can lead up
to something powerful, then pause while the girl takes it in and after a few seconds of silence, say, "But that's not all..." Or
4. Drama and comedy.
Don't be afraid to sprinkle some dramatic and comedic flair into your speech. If you're talking about a goofy incident with your buddy, laugh along with it. When you laugh, it's a cue for other
people to laugh. Chris Rock does this all the time; he laughs at his own scripts, and it has the power of making his routine all the funnier. Likewise, if you're telling a dramatic story of
something amazing like rescuing people from a car accident, talk with conviction and suspense. It really goes a long way towards spellbinding women; they love a great story, especially a heroic
5. Use body language.
It's not enough to talk with your arms beside your side and your butt on your seat. Talk with your arms, with your hands, your body language creating a sense of excitement. It's a fact:
enthusiasm is contagious. So show some enthusiasm with your vocal and body languages!
Finally, change your pitch. If things are going well, lower your pitch, give her your best Barry White. If you're talking about a funny moment, a louder, more excited pitch is probably
best. Recognize the mood and alter your voice to conform to it.
Congratulations! You're on your way to making great impressions on great women. Recognize the power of speech and appearance, and you're bound to succeed.
Don't forget, if you want to learn more about making yourself unforgettable to women by making unforgettable impressions, visit my website at "How to Be Irresistible to Women."